I’m a planner.
I strive for optimization.
I constantly think about how to make a situation better or more effective.
While this can be positive, it has negative consequences too.
When something unforeseen impeded my plans for most of my life, I got frustrated, angry, or sad.
Sometimes I would overreact.
The overreaction caused more stress, discomfort, or pain.
Recognizing this, I turned to mindfulness meditation.
I learned about response-ability.
We have the capacity to choose how we respond.
While this sounds great, I found it tough to implement.
Something was still missing.
The turning point was when I began accepting that I couldn’t stop problems from arising.
In fact, I began expecting curveballs.
The change in mindset allows me to detach from the outcome.
When I detach, the negative emotions pass and disappear quicker.
Because of that, I have greater clarity.
I can stay patient longer.
Or pivot faster, if necessary.
Are you reacting or responding to relationship, health, or business challenges?
Remember, you can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.