Am I living the life I should

Am I living the life I should? ?

It’s a question I’ve been asking since my uncle’s passing.

At the funeral, my cousin delivered a fantastic eulogy.

There were moments of laughter. ?

And moments of tears. ?

My uncle was a man of faith, strongly committed to the church.

My uncle was well-liked, this evident by the turnout at the wake.

My uncle was the type that would give someone the shirt off his back. ?

As I sat and listened, I began asking questions.

What will be said of me when I pass?

Will anyone even come to my funeral? ⛪

Will there be stories shared of my impact on anyone’s life?

I felt anxious. ?

Self-doubt crept in.

There was a sense of sadness.

But then I recalled the exercise of writing your own eulogy. ✍?

There are 4 steps.

1: Imagine your own death

2: Write your eulogy

3: Work backward and make plans ?

4: Take action

So I started by reflecting. ?

I thought of every aspect of my life with me removed and how loved ones will feel and react to my death.

Next, I began to write my eulogy.

I future cast. ?

What have I already accomplished?

What will I accomplish?

I contemplated what I wanted people to say and feel. ❤️

What lessons I want to have imparted.

But before I got to the third step of goal setting, something profound emerged. ?

As I reflected and documented my life, it shed light.

It illuminated my many accomplishments. ⭐

My great qualities.

My beautiful family. ?

The impact my businesses have had on employees, clients, and the public.

It gave me a new perspective. ?

I was falling victim to social comparison.

While I may not be my uncle, my uncle is not me either.

We’re different.

One is not better or worse. ??

There are qualities that I admire of him.

And I’m sure there are qualities of me that he admired.

I felt at peace. ☮️

I contemplated whether to continue with the final goal-setting steps of the exercise.

Eventually, I did.

But my focus was not to try to be my uncle.

Instead, the focus was on being a better version of myself.